I wouldn't call it schadenfreude, exactly, but at this time of year I
feel an odd mixture of glee that I'm no longer a twenty-something
urbanite scrambling to have the perfect New Year's Eve and a slightly
amused empathy for anyone who is.
When I consider what Dec.
31sts used to be like during that phase of life, it all becomes one
blur of so-so entertainment, insufferable crowds, mediocre food and,
all too often, anti-climactic midnights.
There was the time my
friends and I piled into someone's sprawling Cadillac and drove from
San Francisco to Portland, Ore., to see The Pretenders, whose concert
we'd just attended the night before, only to find a hand-scrawled note
on the door of the auditorium saying the drummer had hurt his wrist and
the show was canceled. When the clock struck midnight, instead of
gyrating to "Brass In Pocket" and reveling in our collective cool under
falling confetti and a spinning mirrored ball, we were drowning our
sorrows in watery milkshakes at a low-lit diner.
One New Year's
Eve I was scheduled to perform with my tap troupe in an opulent bar
called Oz at the top of the Westin St. Francis in San Francisco. It was
a well-paying gig and, as I was putting myself through college, I
needed to put the budget before socializing
Peeking out from the
dressing room, I could see that already most of the couples looked as
if they were ready to change partners and groups of friends appeared
bored witless by each other's company. Upon discovering that the marble
stage area was slick as ice, we had to simplify the entire show just to
avoid breaking a limb and our cocktail-infused, companion-maxed
audience seemed about as enrapt as if we were delivering a lecture on
the plight of the rare and endangered crested newt.
I recall
another end-of-year disappointment when my friends and I got soaked as
we waited in pelting rain to get into a new club to see a ska band from
London. After being herded through the front doors, we were informed
that the dance floor was beyond capacity. We therefore heard, but did
not actually see the band from a sardine-tin lobby and ended up heading
home where we rang in the new year with tea and toast (the bread, not
bubbly, variety).
Probably the strangest New Year's Eve I ever
had was in New York City, when my boyfriend and I decided to forego the
club scene and have a quiet meal instead. He'd dumped me just before
Thanksgiving and right after Christmas announced he could not live
without me, pleading with me to go on a relationship-restoration jaunt
to his hometown for some earnest wining and dining (no doubt in order
to help me forget said dumpage).
The restaurant happened to be
at West 72nd and Central Park West, right across from the Dakota
apartments where John Lennon had been shot just a few years before.
After dinner, we stopped and gazed at the arched entrance to the
imposing, Germanic stone building, in a sort of delayed stupor at the
gravity of the sorrowful event that had taken place there.
Suddenly,
a couple came rushing out of the Dakota's inner courtyard, crossing the
sidewalk and maneuvering through parked cars and into the street. The
gentleman, dressed in a banana-yellow three-piece suit, with a mop of
black ringlets covering most of his face, instantly began whistling for
a cab. He flagged one down in short order and hurriedly escorted the
women, who seemed flustered and none too happy, into the back seat. He
did not join her, however, but instead said something to the driver,
swung the door shut and gave a quick knock on the trunk.
As we
stood observing this odd scene, the man in the yellow suit remained
motionless, arms hanging at his sides, gazing at the tail lights of the
cab as they rushed away. With a heavy sigh of what could only be
interpreted as extreme relief, he walked over to our side of the street
and hailed another cab for himself, heading in the other direction. It
was at that moment we realized we'd been watching Tiny Tim, he of the
tip-toeing through the tulips with a ukulele fame.
The mix of
sadness with celebrity sighting made an already peculiar New Year's Eve
yet more disquieting. Any thoughts of heading to Times Square to join
the churning masses had somehow been duly squelched and we took the
subway back over to Brooklyn Heights where we were staying. Midnight
had me reflecting on the dumpage, the Dakota and the resigned
expression on Tiny Tim's face. I could relate, somehow, and knew that
would be the last New Year's Eve I'd spend with my beau who, I realized
before the first sip of champagne, wasn't the one for me.
Thereafter,
my only yearly resolution has been to celebrate at home with people I
love. A lovely tradition along those lines continues tonight, when I'm
having a few close friends over for a low-key evening of good
conversation, laughter, munchies and music while the kids play board
games and compare Christmas loot. The husbands of two friends who'll be
here are musicians and both happen to be playing at pubs around the
corner, so at some point my beau and I will sneak out to make an
appearance and toast the New Year amid the pulsing throngs of our tiny
Vermont village.
Cozy soirees notwithstanding, this area offers
some marvelously en masse revelry for couples and families at various
venues, the highlight being a remarkably innovative and inclusive event
at Stratton Mountain Ski Resort in Bondville.
Adults can join in
on a group snowshoe hike from the lower slopes up to the Mid-Mountain
Lodge for cocktails and then watch two spectacles take place right
there on the mountain, both of which can also be viewed from the base
lodge: a torch-light parade, in which up to 100 top skiers and
snowboarders wind their way down the mountain bearing blazing torches,
followed by fireworks that reflect dramatically on all that white
stuff. There are special family dinners and kids' parties as well, so
it's a wonderful way for everyone to ring in the New Year in true
Vermont style.
Happy 2009, everyone. I have a feeling it's going
to be full of good change. As the lesser known chorus of "Auld Lang
Syne" says, "walk on, walk on, with hope in your heart."
Online: stratton.com
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